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What kind of energy do you invest in your relationships?

All relationships require us to use energy, either positive or negative.  The kind of energy we invest is likely the energy we will get back.  Talk a look at the energy you put into your relationships and see what comes back.  On the other hand, what happens if you receive negative energy from someone? Do you respond with negative energy through negative words or do you walk away?  or better, yet do you strive to respond with positive energy regardless of the negative that comes your way?  Nobody is perfect! We all are capable of responding with negative energy.  The question is where does it get us and what do we gain or lose in that scenario.  Only you can decide what kind of energy you should invest in your relationships, especially if you are co-parenting with someone.  Nonetheless, it is important to think about the kind of energy we want to attract from others. Keep in mind that you are only responsible for your own energy!

 

What does loss and grief have to do with effective co-parenting?

Loss is part of divorce or separation. There are many losses related to this. Grief is the set of emotions and stages that everyone goes through in a divorce or separation. These stages include denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and at some point acceptance. We each go through these stages in a way, and in a time frame, that is logical for who we are and what our life experiences have been around loss and grief. However, if we do not work through these emotions in a way that is “healthy” it can negatively impact how we related to our ex-spouse or partner thereby having a detrimental effect on how we co-parent which can be harmful to the children involved. Please share your thoughts and experiences on this issue.